2 Dumb Myths about Fights in Marriage And Linkup!
There have been times when I’ve heard people make two “cringe-worthy” statements about conflict . . . a) My spouse and I never argue/fight or have conflicts. b) It’s always best to avoid conflict in...
View Article‘Tree of Lies’ Reveals Identity Struggles Giveaway/Linkup
Today I’m excited to have a guest post from Scott Perkins of Choose to Trust. Scott has been one of my favorite bloggers, especially regarding his expertise on identity. I hope you’ll check out his...
View ArticleHow Chronic Illness Impacted My Marriage
Crossing the threshold in my husband’s arms on our wedding day might’ve been the first of many thresholds in our marriage, but the others haven’t always been as fun or whimsical—like when I was...
View ArticleStaying Together When Stress Pulls You Apart
Today we’re back with a video where my husband Gary and I discuss a reader’s question about the challenge of staying together when stress threatens to pull you apart. In our video, we share fourteen...
View ArticleFirst Step to Get Your Heart Right in a Messy Marriage And Linkup
The continual mending of my messy marriage can be traced back to one foundational shift in my life that created a cascade of other important and healing choices. Ultimately this had everything to do...
View ArticleHow Slowing Your Heart Transforms Your Marriage And Linkup
My life right now is as fast and busy as ever, being overloaded with a responsibility or two that I probably shouldn’t have taken on! I’m in desperate need of slowing my pace. How about you? 😉...
View ArticleHow Your Marriage Factors into Your Bible Study Habit And Linkup
Whenever we slow ourselves to be with God through daily prayer and Bible study, we will inevitably face distractions, discouragements and difficulties that can pull us away from this pursuit. It’s...
View ArticleThe ABC’s of How to Forgive a Spouse And Linkup
One of the gusty winds people often feel in marriage has to do with a heart growing cold out of a need to forgive a mate. I was there in that frigid place many years ago and still find myself tempted...
View Article3 Ways to Cover Others with Love When Hurt or Stressed
How did you fare on getting through the stress of the Thanksgiving holiday? Did it fill you up with large helpings of turkey, as well as fun times spent with family and friends? Or were you fed up by...
View ArticleGiving Grace When it’s Hard and Goes Unnoticed
One of the hardest challenges of living out grace in my marriage has and continues to be extending grace (my “one word”) when it has gone unnoticed or does not get returned. I think that’s because...
View Article4 Reasons God Does NOT Want You to Marry Your Soulmate
I remember a time when I questioned almost daily whether I had married the right man or my “soulmate.” I had fallen for the perverted cultural mindset that marriage should be all about me, and making...
View Article8 Red Flags That Might Mean Your Spouse is Having an Affair
Here at Messy Marriage I always try to encourage spouses to persevere in their marriages with the help of the Lord, even though sometimes a major problem, like an affair, can rock a marriage to its...
View ArticleHow Suffering Can Improve Your Marriage and Life
Back when I entered marriage many years ago, I was young, naïve and totally idealistic. I thought that marriage would fulfill the longings in my heart that had been bubbling up all throughout my...
View ArticleHow Being Broken in Your Marriage is a Good Thing!
Ever ignore something that is or might be broken in your life or marriage? It can be scary and intimidating to face this harsh reality. I know, because I did so with one of my my sons and also with my...
View ArticleCheck Out My Interview at Blogger Voices Network
As you may already know, I like to share openly about my marriage messes, as well as the lessons I’ve learned from them here in this space. But the more personal or intimate aspects of who I am and why...
View Article6 Lessons that Motivate Me to Forgive My Mate
I’ve always struggled to let go of offenses and forgive my husband from the heart. In the moment it feels like God needs my help to point out my spouse’s sin or at least to stop it from happening...
View Article4 Reasons to Make Love Even When Angry at Your Husband
It was the eve of our one-year wedding anniversary, and my husband and I had one of our biggest fights. We went to bed angry. Rather, he went to bed, and I went to the couch. I wept through most of the...
View Article6 Reasons Why I Choose to Submit to My Husband
I’m not a mousy wife who can easily submit to my husband just because it’s what God commands. Sadly, I’ve struggled to let go of control in my marriage more times than I can count. It’s been one of the...
View ArticleAre You Really Enough? Find Out What God Says!
Have you heard the cheerful declaration—“You are enough!”—that’s often bandied about on the Internet and beyond? Oh, my goodness, I have! This idea is meant to encourage those who feel unworthy,...
View Article5 Inspiring Examples of Perseverance in the Bible
I’m excited to have Landen Melton as my guest today—offering inspiration from the Bible on how we can persevere like Job, Jeremiah, Apostle Paul, the Persistent Widow and Jesus. What does the word...
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